SUSAN COLE

A year ago, I bought a cute yellow birdfeeder for my porch at a local garden store. Knowing little about birds, I ordered bird seed on Amazon and waited for the birds to show up. A couple of birds scouted it out from a nearby tree, but I had no takers. After a few weeks, I tried bird food for finches, which apparently this feeder was designed for, a fact I gleaned from Google. Still, neither finches nor any other birds were interested. Every time I went out to the porch, I was irritated with the feeder, the birds, and myself, for not knowing how to attract birds.

Last weekend, I went to Backyard Bird Shop where someone who actually knew about birds pointed me to the right food for my finch feeder, to a new feeder that would attract a wider variety of birds, and the food for that. I rushed home with my new purchases, and set it all up on Sunday night. The photo above was what greeted me on Monday morning. They came, they ate, they told their friends about it. I was no longer the proprietor of the worst bird restaurant in the area.

I've had birds chattering away at both feeders all week, which has really lifted me up in the waning gray days of winter. Amazing what asking for help from the right person can do.

I remember when I was writing Holding Fast, the story of following my late husband's dream, and with our young daughter, leaving everything behind to sail away. At  different points when I was struggling, help arrived to nudge me onward, whether from an instructor, encouragement from a friend, or a line from a book or article I was reading. As I move further along on my new book, the same process is unfolding. 

It's rainy and cold where I live in Vancouver, Washington, but the cherry trees, daffodils and crocuses are starting to bloom, and the birds are twittering away at my feeders.

Hope you all are enjoying the coming of spring!

A couple weeks ago, I was working on a scene in my new book where I contrasted Mr. Seidman, my tenth grade English teacher at Shaker Heights High, to my brother Stan, eleven years older than me. Both Stan and Mr. Seidman were in their mid-twenties, but where Mr. Seidman was kind, amused by our teenaged antics, full of life, and introduced us to Shakespeare, Stan had an inner darkness that would have been as off-putting to Mr. Seidman as it was to me. 

To my great embarrassment, starting from sixth grade, the year after Dad died and Stan moved back home, he'd play the piano for me and my pre-teen friends—gazing into their eyes as he sang love songs, putting his arms around them, making them intensely uncomfortable. On weekends, he assaulted his dates in our basement and elsewhere, to the point where when I was fifteen, he landed in jail.

It was not an era when seeing a psychologist was readily accepted. Both my older sister and I told my mother that Stan needed help, but she didn't see it that way. Dad would not have let things get to the point they did with Stan, and certainly not in our house. Mostly, though, I kept my distance from him. In my teens, living with Mother and Stan, I was miserable, hopeless, and couldn't wait to escape. With my dad gone, I felt completely alone. 

After working on the scene, I looked up Mr. Seidman, and discovered that he'd written a book about his family emigrating to Cleveland from Eastern Europe to escape the pogroms against Jews in the early 1900s, just as my family had. I ordered the book and asked the publisher how to get hold of him. Two days later, I heard from him!

It was thrilling to reconnect with my favorite high school teacher who, when I really needed it, had provided a model of how to be that I didn't have at home. 

Now I see that all along the way, there were bright lights like Mr. Seidman, or my guidance counselor who worried about my grades, or my best friend Ellen at whose house I lounged about, that showed a way forward. A constellation of hope. It was not until writing this book that I truly understood that.

If you have a story you'd like to share about someone unexpected who helped you through a dark time, I'd love to hear.

I'm thrilled with this painting of Laughing Goat at sunset in Isla Mujeres, an island off of the northern tip of the Yucatan peninsula, during the voyage with my late husband John and young daughter Kate. We were in Isla Mujeres for about three months as northers pummeled us, delaying our departure for points south; and we stayed around four months on our way north at the end of the voyage while we figured out where we would live in the States. Isla Mujeres was the first harbor where we met sailors from all over the world, California, New Zealand, France, and many other ports. I was floored to meet a female singlehander, sailing alone around the world. In the early part of our voyage, I was still hoping John would do most of the work of sailing and maintaining the boat, since it was his dream and I had given up so much—our home in Connecticut, longtime friends and family, a stable life. I had an attitude. In Isla Mujeres, I began to realize that it was my voyage, too.

The wonderful artist is Inna Nagaytseva.

I'm also delighted that Holding Fast was shortlisted for the Hearten Award for Uplifting and Inspiring Non-Fiction.

Wishing you all a joyful holiday season and very happy New Year!

For the past three months, I've been training for the Columbia River Gorge Half Marathon. I participated for the first time last year and it was such a great experience hiking in the mountains among the tall trees, the river sparkling below, with people enjoying themselves and encouraging each other, that I wanted to do it again. 

Last year, my goal was simply to finish in the allotted time before they closed the race. My walking buddy and I just made it, and we couldn't have been prouder of ourselves.

This year, I wanted to improve my time. Over the weeks of training, I learned about checking my heart rate and getting in the zone so when I went faster, I was still comfortable. I learned about leaning in to the hills so the elevation didn't take all my energy. One of the high points for me this year was at the beginning, which was quite steep. With all the adrenaline flowing, many people rushed upward, passing me. When we got to the top, though, I began passing them.

I finished the race 53 minutes ahead of my time last year. No longer last, I beat 31 people. Most of the racers were in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Another woman and I were the oldest racers. A bonus: my daughter Kate and a couple of her friends were in the race, too. They ran, I walked. They passed me on their way down and we high-fived.

It had rained all week, but the day of the race, the sun shone. It was a blast.

I don't know what my late husband John would make of my new hobby. I know he would approve of working hard to reach a goal, like we did when we followed his lifelong dream and with our young daughter, left everything behind and sailed away for three years. If you want to learn more about our sailing adventure, go here to find Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss.  

When John and I left with our seven-year-old daughter Kate on Laughing Goat on what would become a three-year sailing adventure, Elmo, a Portuguese water dog puppy, came with us. Chocolate-colored, curly haired, long-legged, dignified Elmo whom my brother-in-law named "the man in the brown suit." Though we hoped he'd become a playmate for Kate, he was John's dog, trailing him everywhere. His serious demeanor made him a comforting watchmate at nights. Elmo could be goofy, though, like when violets randomly appeared in his hair, or he rolled ecstatically on a stinky dead fish on the beach. On Staniel Cay in the Bahamas, painful burrs stuck to his hair, paws, and tail, and in Belize, ticks found him. I believe we extracted forty one time. When John was away on business towards the end of the voyage, Hurricane Mitch hit Guatemala, and Elmo was my companion in misery, taking care of the boat. 

After we returned from our journey, we bought a house in Florida and told Kate that she could get a dog of her own. She chose a sweet, jolly, handsome golden retriever puppy, whom she named after Chubby Checkers. Always ready to swim or chase frisbees at the beach, Checkers was a menace to unuspecting swimmers as he headed resolutely into the ocean on self-imposed rescue missions. After Kate went off to college, John and I sold the house and moved aboard a 40' catamaran, Smooch, with the two boys. From our base in Fort Lauderdale, our crew of four sailed often to the Bahamas, which we  had come to love on the earlier voyage. 

In the picture above, Elmo and Checkers are getting ready for an outing in our Jeep in Fort Lauderdale, probably to the bakery on Las Olas Avenue, a charming Italian shop with fresh ciabbata, pastries and coffee. The boys would sit politely, emitting occasional moans of pleasure and longing, as John fed them chunks of blueberry muffin. 

They both lived to age fourteen and have been gone awhile. I'm so glad they were a part of our lives.

If you want to learn more about our sailing adventure on Laughing Goat when we left everything behind and sailed away, you can find my book here. Holding Fast.   

The Columbia River Gorge Half Marathon is coming up in October, and I began training last week. Last year, I participated in the marathon with the goal simply of finishing in the allotted time frame. My walking partner Kathy and I, both first time participants over sixty, were thrilled that we were able to complete it. This year, our goal is to beat our time from last year.

Though I've worked out regularly during the year, I've walked only sporadically, especially during the heat of summer. On a sunny, mild afternoon last week, I set out for Salmon Creek Greenway, rather pleased with myself for my timely start on the training. I smiled at the quacking ducks,  and sniffed fading wild roses. Just as the path passed under a tall shady arch of poplars and oaks, a woman in a safari hat beckoned me, making a "sssh" sign. She pointed to a great blue heron, balanced on one leg, still, hidden among the greenery. She'd seen it in the vicinity before. We were alone on the path, and as I strode on, I thanked her for sharing such a sublime moment.

Later in the week, I heard from Kathy that the coach with whom we both train had some recommendations for increasing our pace. I panicked, as though he were suggesting that I need to run a four-minute mile and would never be able to enjoy walking in nature again. My daughter, who also works with him and will be running the race, laughed. "You like being comfortable, but if you don't want to be out there for days, you need to go a little faster."

I remembered how ecstatic I was simply to finish the race in time to get a medal last year, and what a great achievement it was to reach a goal that I had worked hard for. When I went out yesterday for my second midweek training, I followed the coach's suggestions, and improved my time. I didn't stop to spot the heron, but I began to have the feeling that if I work at it, I can make my goal this year. It didn't hurt that I've been following the Paris Olympics: the excellence and determination of the athletes is thrilling.

My late husband John was a great example of reaching a goal through persistence and hard work. If you want to learn about my sailing adventure with John and our seven-year-old daughter when we left everything behind and sailed away to fulfill his lifelong dream, you can find my book, Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss here.

I spent last week in Pacific City, Oregon, working on my new book. The first morning, as I sipped coffee on the porch overlooking the Pacific Ocean, including majestic Chief Kiawanda Haystack Rock just off the beach, two deer strolled by on the narrow road, and a hummingbird fluttered inches from me. I couldn't wait to write.

A few days in, I learned that Cruising World selected Holding Fast as one of 7 Great Summer Reads for 2024! When my late husband John and I lived in Connecticut before we sailed off on Laughing Goat, John was a regular subscriber to Cruising World. Before we set out on a long voyage ourselves, we lived vicariously through the adventures of those who had already taken the plunge. For twenty years, we aspired to join them, never really sure we had what it took to be successful.

As I danced around the living room, thrilled that Holding Fast was chosen, I could hear John's laughter. During our three-year voyage, we would not have guessed that one day Cruising World would consider the story of our near-disasters, misadventures, and self-doubts worthy of a place alongside the sailing greats we had read about in the leading sailing magazine.

If you would like to learn more about my sailing adventure with John and our young daughter when we left everything behind and sailed away, go here to find Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss.

In May, 1981, I placed an ad in the Cleveland Plain Dealer seeking information about my father, who died when I was ten. I had recently married my late husband John aboard Phaedrus, an old fifty-foot, fifty-ton Norwegian wood sailboat that we lived on in Stamford, Connecticut. Huge red, yellow, and purple paper flowers flew from the rigging, and we dreamed of sailing away someday. I had gained the confidence (or foolhardiness) to start my own market research business, after years of working for others. My life was blooming, opening up, and I longed for my dad to see how well I'd done. He wouldn't have thought much of my brief, ill-fated first marriage to my college boyfriend, but he would have loved John's sense of adventure.

In working on my new book about growing up in Cleveland without Dad, I'm trying to understand how I came to feel so alone after he died, losing my family, my sense of home, even ties to Judaism. I feel compassion towards my young thirty-something self, desperately seeking connection to my father. I wanted to hear stories about him from those who loved him, too. My mother, brother, and sister were unreliable narrators. 

If you want to learn more about my three-year sailing adventure with my husband and young daughter when we left everything behind to follow John's lifelong dream and sail away, go here to find Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss.

Remember the first time you tasted gelato? On a family trip to Tuscany twenty years ago with my late husband John and teen-aged daughter Kate, I ordered a bacio gelato at a cafe in town. When the velvety cold chocolate-hazelnut lusciousness hit my mouth, it was like all my best ice cream memories rolled into one...licking a chocolate ice cream cone at Euclid Beach amusement park growing up in Cleveland with Dad, scarfing down melting Haagen Dazs vanilla-chocolate-almond bars with John and Kate in summer when we lived in Fairfield, Connecticut, or enjoying an after-dinner treat on our sailboat, Laughing Goat, on the Rio Dulce in Guatemala after John, Kate and our dog Elmo chugged down the river in the dinghy in the gathering dusk to the Esso station and brought back crumbly, stale Hershey bars that tasted of home.

I love the happiness on my grandson's face when he tastes coconut gelato for the first time on a recent trip to New Orleans. I hope he never loses his sense of wonder at the world offering up its dazzling small and large joys.

If you want to learn about my sailing adventure with my husband John and young daughter when we left everything behind to follow John's lifelong dream and sail away , go here to find Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss.

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Years ago, Hawaiians planted mangroves to form an arched path from the road down to Donkey Beach in Kauai, Hawaii. Gradually, the mangroves grew high enough for people to pass under them. From a scraggly beginning, a magical sun-dappled tunnel now exists. I was on vacation there a couple weeks ago, and one day, a bird perched atop the branches sang the most beautiful, sweet song. I felt like she was telling me to stand still, listen to the waves, the ruffling branches, and smell the fresh island air, and the flowers.

While I was in Kauai, I saw whales spouting at sunrise, the first full moon of 2024, a Wolf Moon on January 25th, and ancient Waimea Canyon, a 3000 foot high wonder that abuts Mount Waiʻaleʻale, one of the wettest places on earth. I'm back home now working on my new book, and in moments when it seems I still have a long way to go, I hold onto the magic of Hawaii, born from volcanoes, where a bird serenaded me in a long, winding sun-dappled tunnel that opened onto a gorgeous beach.

Happy Valentine's Day!

If you want to learn about my three-year sailing adventure with my husband John and young daughter when we left everything behind to follow John's lifelong dream and sail away, go here to find Holding Fast: A Memoir of Sailing, Love, and Loss.

If you enjoyed the book, please consider leaving a review on Amazon. It's super helpful to authors!